Sofia Coppola and Spike Jonze were married for 4 years before divorcing in 2003. Many people believe that Lost in Translation (2003) is about their marriage, Scarlett Johansson playing Sofia, describing the events that lead to the downfall of their relationship. Similarly enough, it is speculated that Her (2013) is Spike Jonze’s response to Coppola’s depiction, showing his point of view. The films feature similar themes and shots, like the one above.
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors – not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.